Category Archives: Sex & Gender

You Can’t Have Sex AND Be Smart, Ladies!

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Source: Some Asshole

 

I saw this image today on Pinterest and it made me genuinely mad, for 4 reasons:

1. The idea that sex & intelligence cannot coexist

Do rocket scientists never have sex? Do people drop out of high school to have more time for blow jobs? No, because those notions are ridiculous. Sex and reading can coexist (or be absent) in anyone’s life. It’s not like when the evening hits, I have to decide between catching up on some reading and gettin’ dirty in the sheets.

2. The idea that sex and intelligence are dependent on each other

How/if someone has sex and their perceived intelligence have no guaranteed correlation. If you read books, there is no scientific evidence that you are not having sex. If you are crackin’ an egg of knowledge all over someone, there’s no reason it can’t be done mid blowjob.

3. The fact that this is aimed exclusively at women.

Combining the fact that the picture is of a woman, and the reference to opening legs + blowing men (and the tendency for these sort of stupid images to be hetero-normative) leads me to believe that this is a classic case of slut shaming. Because you know we women can only either be smart and sexless, or full of dicks and watching bad reality TV!

4. The idea that reading and intelligence are better than having sex.

Even if a person were to prefer having sex over reading a book, who cares? It doesn’t make that person any less intelligent/respectable/awesome. If you are just so damn wrapped up in their choices it’s probably you who needs to reevaluate your life, not them.

 

Anyway, that’s my rage for the day. Thanks for reading after my long absence. Please share any images/quotes that make your blood boil!

 

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Abstinence-Only “Education”

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I’m going to go ahead and say it.

ABSTINENCE-ONLY “EDUCATION” IS NOT EDUCATION.

Now, let me start this off with: I am pro-abstinence. I think our society puts too much weight on sex, and it causes a lot of unnecessary pressure on our youth. I think people should be encouraged to abstain from sex until they are physically, mentally, and emotionally ready to partake in it consensually. There is nothing wrong with abstinence.

That being said, I am also pro-health, pro-body, pro-STD-free, pro-protection, and pro-sex.

Purposefully denying young people the education to know and understand their bodies, along with how to protect them is wrong and dangerous, especially in a place that should be safe to learn (whether it’s at school or at home).

Sex is natural. It’s not wrong, or dirty. It’s human to have urges, and none of us would be here if we didn’t acknowledge and act on those urges. No matter how much you want your precious child to be shielded from sex, their body is going to develop and have urges just like every one else’s.

Furthermore, the facts speak for themselves. States with mostly abstinence-only “education” also have the highest rate of teen pregnancies and show no evidence that it prevents teens from having sex.

The argument I’ve heard for abstinence-only “teaching” is, “If we tell them all about sex, they’ll want to have it.”

REALLY? Telling a 10-year-old girl that a watermelon is going to come out her crotch if she gets pregnant makes her want to have sex? Telling a 14-year-old boy what herpes is will make him go buck-wild on the next girl he sees? WTF are you in to?

I was fortunate enough to have comprehensive sex-ed (both in school and from my parents). Learning about tampons and condoms and weird things that dongs do did NOT make me want to jump into bed with a dude. I don’t recall any of my classmates tearing off their clothes and emitting a roar of newfound sexuality, either.

The point is, hiding information – crucial knowledge – from a kid in an effort to protect them does more harm than good. So let’s stop calling it education and call it what it really is – forcing your beliefs onto children and denying them the knowledge to make the decision on their own.

Support comprehensive sex education!

Just Use a Condom.

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Look, I love condoms, I really do. They protect against most STDs, frequently prevent pregnancy, and are easily accessible and affordable. But they aren’t enough.

Without fail, every time CNN or a blogger or someone posts an article about the need for accessable, affordable birth control, someone inevitable smugly comments, “just use a condom!”

Here is why I will not just “use a condom”:

  • Condoms break. They break from friction, improper use, and just plain old bad luck.
  • Condoms can be tampered with. One can remove a condom discreetly during intercourse, damage it beforehand, use expired condoms, or put it on incorrectly. Neither party should have to put the full responsibility/trust of protection into another’s hands.
  • Condoms are not 100% effective. Some STDs can still be transferred even with condom use through skin contact. Also due to the fact that they are essentially a latex glove, there is no guarantee it will stay in tact the whole session.

Bottom line: Condoms are great, but not always reliable. You know what can help patch up that hole of unreliability…?

  • The pill is a wonderful back up in case of broken condoms.
  • Being on BC leaves you in control of your baby-making (or lack of).
  • BC means constant protection, whether you’re having sex or not.
  • While not 100% effective against pregnancy, the pill used in conjunction with condoms gets you as close to that number as possible.
  • Birth control makes more sense to most people in long term, closed relationships. You know you’ll be having sex fairly consistently with the same person (or people if you’re in a closed poly relationship), you know you are both clean and faithful, and you can hold off on kids till you’re ready without buying boxes of condoms that may or may not break.

Are condoms awesome and great at protecting against STDs? YES! Is the pill awesome and great at protecting against pregnancy? YES! Should you be able to choose which one or both or none to use when you want? YES!

Telling the millions of sexually active people in the world to simply use one method of birth control that is not 100% reliable is ignorant and careless.

And also, frankly none of their damn business.

STDs 101 – College, Sex, & You

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STDs on the College Campus
Via: Online Colleges Blog

Ready for a wild weekend? Well I hate to damper your mood, but take a minute to check out the above infographic on STD rates before you pick up that case of beer for the party.

While you’re at it, pick up some condoms too. If you’re embarrassed to buy them at the store, here’s a pack of 60 you can order online for pretty cheap. Ladies, don’t rely on him to have a condom, especially if you don’t know how long that thing has been sitting in his wallet.

Have a happy weekend, Heathens!

Republicans & Gay Rights: You’re Doing It Wrong

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Question: If you beat a man every day, and then every once in a while say his hair looks nice, do you think he will like you?

Answer: No, because that is a stupid thing to think.

I guess a few Republicans don’t realize this.

Three Republican Congressman have made “It Gets Better” videos for gay youth. For those not in the know, the It Gets Better videos are vlogs encouraging gay youth to continue fighting for their rights and standing up against prejudice, and though things are hard now, they will get better. These began at the height of teenage suicides brought on by bullying.

For some reason, three right wing dudes decided it would be a good idea to shove their  over-privileged faces into an IGB video to – I don’t fucking know – seem compassionate? Complete a dare? Win a bet? Make asses of themselves?

Look guys, no one is going to crack a smile and say, “Aw, ya know those 3 have voted for DOMA and DADT, but shucks, they really do care about me”. No one on this planet is dumb enough to watch this video and think these guys give a shit about the well-being of homosexual youth.

When you literally hold the power to push for real change that would ACTUALLY bring equality to homosexuals, and then consistently deny them that equality, YOU ARE ANTI-GAY VOTING REPUBLICANS. Making a video telling them, “Hey it gets better, but not while I’m around because I’m going to keep voting against your rights!” is a mockery and insulting.

Yeah, you probably don’t want kids offing themselves – who does? I don’t question that these 3 didn’t have the intent to offer a good message (okay, maybe I do question it a bit), but it’s a slap in the face to say that they want these kids to be happier, but then go to work and vote against giving them the right to marry their loved ones.

No one trusts a wolf in sheep’s clothing…and I sure don’t trust anti-gay voting Republicans to do a damn thing to make sure it actually does get better.

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Mississippi: “The best way to solve all our problems is to take away birth control.”

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Mississippi sure knows how to solve a problem!

They have the highest poverty rate in all of North America.

They have the highest rate of childhood obesity.

They have the 8th highest rate of HIV/AIDS in the country.

And their shining crown of glory – the highest rate of teen pregnancy births in the country.

It’s a recession, people are out of work, fed up with wars, lack of resources, and fickle government. They’re getting knocked up all over the damn place and then feeding their children crappy food because nutrition education is lacking.

NEVER FEAR! yells a bunch of batshit insane ultra conservatives, WE HAVE THE ANSWER!

The answer to solve your most pressing problems of poverty, obesity, HIV, and teen pregnancy…

At last, something that focuses on the hard hitting problems that effect everyone: what is happening with someone else’s body.

Mississippi’s Amendment 26 looks to create a “protection of personhood for anyone of any developmental stage” meaning some sperm that’s wigglin’ it’s way in to an egg (or before, because conception is like fertilization, and pregnancy is a punishment for sex).

The poorly written, holier-than-though, white-top-class-privilege-denying load of shit defines personhood as beginning at fertilization or “the functional equivalent there of”, meaning the pill, Plan B, IUDs, the patch or anything that equals conception.

But that’s not a big deal, because sex is for procreation only which is why it’s a public matter and not pleasurable or natural, and therefor unneeded.

Also it solves the state’s problems, which was what again? Oh yeah, abortions and stuff. Priorities!

Mississippi readers, vote no on Amendment 26 so that rape and incest victims, those who enjoy sex, those looking to in vitro-fertilization, those who are married and don’t want more kids, those who cannot afford more children, and the common person don’t have to have their body and actions regulated by the government.

UPDATE: It didn’t pass, hoorah hoorah! While this is just a small victory (the amendment is going up in other states), it is still a big step! Keep fighting, uterus-defender!