Tonight is the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show, a widely anticipated event filled with glitter, feathers, insanely padded bras, and the celebration of all dainty clothing usually reserved for after midnight.
I saw in the afternoon today that “VS Fashion Show” was trending on Twitter and eagerly clicked it because I am easily distracted at work. What I came across made me, well, sad.
Half the feed was filled with young girls tweeting about wanting to throw up, being fat and ugly, hating their eating habits, and wishing to look like the models.
The other half was both men and women calling the VS models everything from “not real women” to “skeletons in bras” to “ugly ass bitches”.
I know, I know, Twitter isn’t exactly the peek of human kindness/intelligence/sensibility – but come ON. This is a perfect example of why body issues exist and how we as a society perpetrate them on both ends every day.
“But Tegan! Are you saying we just shouldn’t talk about people’s bodies?”
I’m saying YES SHUT UP ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE’S BODIES IT’S NONE OF YOUR DAMN BUSINESS. Saying, “She looks too skinny she should eat a burger” is not a nice discussion about healthy body weight – it’s passing judgement on someone and proclaiming them not up to your standards. It’s none of your concern how many burgers Heidi Klum has consumed!
And ladies on Twitter feeling fat – stop. Yeah we all feel fat once in awhile and go “damn I wish I had those abs” but proclaiming that you won’t eat because a skinny woman is on TV isn’t healthy or normal. Would you say it to your younger sister? No? Then don’t say it on Twitter and continue the body shaming. Shaming your own body just makes other people think its okay to shame your body too.
If you’re feeling unsure about your weight, talk to your doctor. Talk about health plans and nutritional ways to improve your diet. Don’t tell Twitter you’re going to puke all night because some lady on TV covered in glitter has a flat stomach. It’s not worth making yourself feel bad. Good people love you for who you are, not what you look like.
Aaaand before you go, why don’t you check out these scary statistics about body image, eating disorders, and the media’s influence? Or if you don’t like to read, here’s XoJane’s “Real Belly Project” that shows stomachs of all shapes, sizes, and colours and will make you feel all warm and fuzzy and self-satisfied inside!